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Fear of humiliation, making a mistake and failing

Do you know that? Can you find yourself in one or more of these statements? It could be that you perceive yourself "pretty fearless," but is there not the one or other saturation where you can see yourself?

I - a teacher, a youth leader, an educator:

How do I look to others?
Fear not standing up for oneself!
Afraid to embarrass yourself in front of the kids!
Afraid to embarrass yourself in front of others
Afraid to embarrass yourself in front of your parents
Afraid not getting it right
Fear of failure
Fear that a group session goes south
Fear of being ill-prepared
Fear of being insecure
Fear not being able to fulfil a task
Fear: of being judged because I have a different opinion because I'm doing something different, because I would like to make a different decision.

I as a student:

Fear of standing in front of the class
Afraid of getting a low mark
Afraid of being poorly assessed
Anxiety not to be able to something

Everybody once was a student and knows this situation. And depending on the teacher or class situation, you could make an absolute fool of yourself. And depending how your parents would respond if you got a low grade, the fear is great to come home with another failed exam.

I as an employee, as a boss:

Fear of others
Afraid to look bad
Afraid to fail
Fear of not knowing something
Anxiety ….

At work, the workplace; depending on the people you have to deal with, there are situations where you might feel insecure, be afraid to fail, look “dumb and stupid.” Sometimes even a fear of the boss or other colleagues.

Questions:

Where does this fear come from?
Where did this fear of failure come from?
Where does this fear of not being able to do something come from?
Where does this fear that the others are better come from?
Where does the fear of rejection come from?

Could the answer to anxiety be in one or more of the following answers?

Possible answers where those fears are coming from:

because we (sometimes or often) were criticized (criticized, beaten, punished, ridiculed, ...)
because we (eventually or often) were reprimanded
because we (eventually or often) were called stupid
because we (eventually or often) were referred to as lazy
because we (eventually or often) were laughed at if we did not know an answer
because we (eventually or often) were laughed at if we could not do something
because we have been called (sometimes or often) a failure, a loser
because we were (eventually or often) rejected (parents locked the child in, didn’t speak to the child anymore, ...)
because now we believe: I can’t, I am nothing

Conclusion:

The causes of anxiety are varied and are based on a broad range of experiences. Not everyone can understand the fear somebody else; some do not even know their own (actual, causal) fears.

Nevertheless, the experiences we had influenced our actions, our decisions - and if you'd investigate it a bit more detailed, you realize, much happens out of sheer fear, or does not happen out of fear respectively.

The fear of others:

Averts coexistence,
Averts to live well,
Averts reaching out to one another,
Averts that you are better off.

Implementing youth work as anxiety-free zone – Embarrassments are allowed.

No need to be afraid a making a fool of yourself
Everyone should be the way he is and to get involved, the way he can
Everyone is allowed to have a say without fear; or that it is wrong or is commented on negatively
Everyone should give it a go and be allowed to make mistakes
No one is stupid or clever
There is no up or down
There is no religious or not religious person
There is no exclusion, no selecting of people

because every man, child, and young person counts.